Coming Full Circle
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If you receive newsletters and mailings from us routinely, then you know that we are well underway with a fifth book to reset our perspective on presence. The book begins with the concept of “coming full circle” and how we’ve evolved our approach to coaching it.
To be honest, I thought we needed to write the book because our concepts were set fifteen years ago through the eyes of communicators in high-profile, business settings. The insights for the first book came from senior leaders who defined the expectations of executive presence based on their experiences. And in today’s setting, that seemed too narrow of a lens.
We’ve redefined leadership in the last decade in terms of who leaders are and what we expect in how they lead. Every meeting is an opportunity for leadership, and every communicator can influence decisions. We’ve evolved work settings and stretched business norms to the point that guardrails seem less certain. And with so much shifting, evolving and resetting, we knew that we needed to understand how expectations of communicators have been impacted by that. Even with thirty years of experience as coaches, we told ourselves to listen and observe.
And we have listened through surveys, interviews and focus groups. We’ve observed virtual settings, in-person meetings and hybrid presentations. But we expanded the lens to not just observe the communicators, but to observe the listeners as well…what they take in and what they take away.
And here’s the bottom line:
Impressions have remained steadfast and universal. No matter who you are, where you’re from or what you do, people have expectations of communicators. And when you speak up, those expectations take shape as impressions. We’ve coached to impressions and expectations for three decades, and we continue to leverage that approach to strengthen your skills. We observe your style, and we note impressions. And almost as if working a puzzle, we focus on the origin of impressions. By helping a communicator adjust impressions of the voice and body, we can improve how someone sees them, hears them, and responds to them. It’s about intentional choices and helping a communicator feel effective to be effective. That all remains true.
But presence has evolved through a broader lens.
When you consider the listeners’ expectations, it’s less about “in this moment” and more about the consistency of impressions “in every moment.” Presence has moved beyond the pressure to show up well in high-visibility moments to the ability to prove out those impressions in every moment.
It started with the pandemic shutdown and the vulnerability we all expressed as people first and then leaders and managers second. Expectations shifted from confident to authentic and today, listeners want both. As we saw all elements reset from that point forward, the concept of presence became intertwined with personal brand.
Today, our research shows that while you might be a great presenter and communicator when the spotlight is on, listeners pay just as much attention to how you communicate in small settings and with all groups. That’s where authenticity and consistency take hold.
The full circle for us has been how we describe presence and coach someone to consider it.
We don’t just explore a communicator’s ability to engage and connect; we start with it. And our focus has evolved from guiding someone to a defined set of impressions to evolving someone from their own sense of authenticity. Those aren’t vastly different in how they’re coached. But they are different in how communicators feel about the journey. As one communicator recently shared: “I get it. It’s less about the performance and more about the impact.”
To us, presence is the convergence of two themes: intention and consistency.
You might think of those as expanding expectations, and in the short term, it’s true. It’s harder to deliver on both. But if you believe your presence is tied to who you are and how you want to influence, you’ll find that the broader lens on presence gets more aligned over time. It’s not a concept you turn on when it’s needed. It’s an impact that you take with you into every setting.
Communication becomes a continuous loop and a set of impressions that get validated over time. Presence is earned by a communicator when listeners feel it’s as much a part of who they are as how they communicate. And that’s how we’ve come full circle. So much so that our workshops start with engagement today and build the elements of presence around that full circle of connection. We start with the listener lens, and we raise the bar on not just presenting well but influencing consistently.
More to come in the months ahead as we share excerpts from the book.
We’re on a new journey! And I hope you’ll call us when you need us.
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